10th October 2020
Taking Back Control
We are all living in a world that is experiencing more change than anytime in history, change that for many is outside of our control.
The increase in technology and information available to us is an exponential curve, placing ever increasing demands on us. Communities are forming through technology at a speed that was inconceivable only a few decades ago, as the internet brings together people from every corner of the planet, sharing ideas and common beliefs. Seeking out like minded people has never been easier, from online communities, to online learning, forums sharing knowledge and social media, in addition to this we are also tied into the more traditional structures of society norms, government and commerce, industries and media that have shaped our lives, our cultures, the way we behave and our personalities. All this means that we have a huge amount of external input, external influences that pull us in different directions, stimulating us, challenging us, supporting us or stressing us out; and it is therefore understandable that we often believe that our own inner world is simply a victim of our external realities, but it is not.
Now of course we are hugely influenced by our external reality, where we choose to place ourselves physically, who we choose to spend time with, what we choose to listen to or follow, all these things influence us, but none of these control us and this is an important distinction, because it is when we feel out of control, or even worse, controlled by the world around us, that we can end up behaving in very strange ways, as we seek to gain back control of our situation.
The truth, however, is that we are in control of our personal reality. How we view the change around us is a personal choice; how we direct our mental attention is a personal choice and therefore how we emotionally experience the world, is a personal choice. However it rarely seems this way, but it is very important to know this truth, because without this understanding we become victims of our environment and circumstances, we become emotionally strained, energetically drained, psychologically confused and narrow in our outlook. Ultimately we can then find ourselves being driven predominantly by fears, rather than personal desires and creativity that are at the heart of our ability to adapt and thrive in the most challenging of times.
This human ability to adapt, to rebalance after trauma, to refocus ourselves and open up again to a higher performing self, is a measure of our ‘Emotional Resilience’. Once you fully understand this process of managing and developing internal wellbeing, you will start driving the way you turn up in the world, you will know that although we might be influenced by external forces, our internal reality is never controlled by them. You can then start to appreciate and manage your own journey in life, appreciate the value of all you have been through and appreciate all you will go through, knowing that you are not a victim but an architect of your own journey. We take back control where it seemed to be lost.
For me, understanding these internal processes and how to develop them, is the key to managing your own internal reality, so that as you journey through your external reality, you can continue to consciously evolve and show up in the world in a positive way, even in the most challenging of situations. You can learn to internally thrive rather than simply survive.
One of the most powerful tools for mastering this internal world and laying foundations for understanding and directing your own internal reality, is to learn to meditate and to help in this, I have put together a short introduction to meditation guide, which you can download at https://www.dtcw.co.uk/intro-to-meditation-landing-page/ and have more practical resources on my YouTube channel. https://youtube.com/c/JeremyWoodallCoachWithin
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